She hasn’t had sex with her husband in anywhere from a month to over a year. Or if they do regularly, it’s pretty uncomfortable and definitely lackluster.

Her feeling is that her husband always want sex, and she rarely does. She wonders if it’s ok to say no when she’s not in the mood.

The last time they had sex it was pretty miserable - he seemed awkward, disengaged, and like he was going through the motions, a little embarrassed, and she was pretending to have fun while having incredibly insecure thoughts about her body, worrying about what he was thinking of the sex and her, thinking about dinner and other chores but trying not to, and not really being able to get her head in the game because she feels unattractive, uncomfortable, and a little bitter. And frankly, it kind of hurts, and there’s only a 2% chance she’s going to have an orgasm anyway. 

She wants to feel close to her husband, she wants to feel attractive and happy in her body, and balanced in sharing it and loving that interaction, but that feels confusing, impossible, and miles away, and like closeness in his view is going to ‘require’ sex, and that annoys her. 

Sex is not fun, and sometimes it is even painful, and she rarely if ever orgasms. That leads her to finding ways to subtly turn him off or avoid him and stay up late so that sex becomes difficult, impossible, or unpleasant for him to bother to pursue with her. 

This makes her feel safe and even ecstatic in the short run - like she managed to wiggle out of it again - but in the long run it is killing their marriage.

Her husband drags himself through life like a man whose has had all of the zest pulled out of him, and he’s more happy and engaged with his guy friends or watching sports than with her, which angers her and hurts her deeply.

He has likely resigned himself to not being intimate much, and secretly fantasizes about other women, looks occasionally or frequently at porn, and has played with emotional or physical flirting affairs with women at his office who seem much more fun, happy, attentive, and sexually engaged than his wife. He hides this, and is both excited by it, and ashamed of it - yet feels pretty justified. 

Her daughters look at her and don’t want to be like her, and are rebelling against traditional marriage and even church and Christian life because this is what they think being a Christian woman is all about: being a-sexual and distant from your so-called lover, and they don’t want any part of it. She tries to be more ‘pure’ and ‘holy’ and involved in church to pull them back in, but that is only backfiring. 

It makes her sons disdainful of women and distrustful of marriage, because they see the ‘trap’ their dad got into - promised the woman of their dreams, and then never satisfied romantically or sexually. 

Church feels like a safe space for her, until they go to marriage conferences and the inevitable topic of sex comes up ‘for men’ and she has to deal with the reality that she is not being faithful in this area. But because it’s presented as something that only men want or need, instead of being a rejuvenated area of their relationship, it leads to obligatory, lame sex, and even deeper resentment and insecurity. 

5 years later, their marriage is on the rocks and they are hiding it from their church community, their sex life is non existent, her weight is higher than it’s ever been and she is continually yo-yo dieting, their son has been discovered to be using drugs, their daughter has been discovered to be sleeping with her boyfriend, and the life and family she dreamed of is a wreck.

She blames it on her husband, for not being a good spiritual leader or a strong enough head of the family, and she is more involved in church activities than ever, keeping up appearances. 

Meanwhile, her husband is quieter, more distant, and less engaged and romantic than ever. She senses that he resents her, and that is the reason he has checked out, but she’s sick of trying to get him to have meaningful conversations with her, and she resents him too.

They aren’t able to hide it as well as they think they are, of course, and anyone with eyes can see that things aren’t as they should be, or as they are pretending that they are.

This is what the world sees of Christian marriage, and it backs up their claim that it’s a foolish, old-fashioned institution, and you should stay single and have fun and sex while you’re wild and free, and avoid such a restrictive, miserable commitment as much as possible.

That is also the opinion of her children.

What an example. And how different it could have been if she had had or taken the time to study and learn to live out the Biblical vision for sex.

Oh, how things have shifted!! She didn't even think it was possible, but here it is - her new reality!

They are not only BACK to the passion they had, but it is even deeper and safer and more satisfying because of the depth of the time they have been married and all that they have been through together.

Now, with sex and thus romance reignited, instead of the time and all that they’ve been through playing against them and pulling them apart, their shared battle scars and memories make them and their marriage inseparable and unshakable.  

Her husband is buying flowers, texting little love notes, coming home from work early just to be around her, and suggesting weekends away - he’s like a little boy in love but it’s SO attractive to her, because he’s a MAN and he ADORES her.

And as for her, her opinion of him has blossomed into a gratitude and respect that she thought was gone for good. She smiles as she thinks of him and their flirtations and his sweet acts throughout the day. 

It is clear to their church community that their marriage is different, and now everyone wants to be like them. They hold hands walking into and out of church, he puts his arm around her during the service, and now when they go to marriage conferences, they wink at each other and laugh, rather than sitting there, tense, a foot away from each other, with no chatting or eye contact.

Their children want to be around them more, their daughter has reengaged with the church and is now leading her friends to church, their son has been sober for months, and the vibe in her family has shifted to trust, openness, peace, and joy. 

She is so satisfied in her body in ways she didn’t even know were possible. She has a respect, love, and affection for her physical form, not just because her husband does, but because SHE has tapped into a part of her identity that had forever been tucked away - because she had been told it was bad, had misused it before and hidden it in trauma and shame, or never even knew it existed. 

But now, she has connected with God and the story of Scripture and the identity of the church as the bride and Christ as the bridegroom more than she knew was possible, her spiritual maturity is at a whole new level, and her relationship with God has reached a new level of trust, enjoyment, understanding, and intimacy. And she, as well as everyone else, can tell.

It’s like a whole new world, and life is just beginning. 

"Our marriage was fairly distant with a decent amount of tension, and a decent amount of that related to our sex life - he wanted sex, I couldn’t care less (despite the fact that I am quite good at enjoying it physically and he is very gracious and generous in this area). My sense of self and connection to God was pretty weak.

We had recently finished a year long stint of abstinence and despite a large amount of individual work we had done on ourselves, this part of our relationship was basically back to the state it had been in before all of that. We both felt guilty and defensive for where we were, and also unsure how to move forward. I could see how our 5 small kids and community at large was also suffering from this lack of unity as it drained so much energy that we couldn’t really afford to lose.

I watched an hour long presentation by Jackie about why it’s important for women to enjoy sex as a gift from God instead of the for the sake of her husband, and the points she made made so much sense compared to everything I’d ever heard on this topic. It was the complete polar opposite of everything I’d heard and it sounded like it would actually make a HUGE difference in many areas that I had wanted to see growth in. I trusted because of that and the fact that Jackie really emphasized that the secret is wanting and choosing this for ourselves, as a gift, and from an empowered place as free daughters of God. 

I’m not even a full week in and I felt like I already knew almost everything about the first week’s topic, and even though it appeared to be focused on the physical pleasure aspect of sex I realized while doing the coursework that I was carrying a selfish, closed off attitude toward God, my husband, and sex that I was almost completely unaware of! I also realized where it came from and that I could easily shift my attitude to one of openness and receptivity.

I am amazed. Amazed that I could choose to show up differently during the sexual experience and have a completely different emotional experience. That I could feel cared for like an innocent little child (emotionally) in a situation that is frequently seen as so adult and shameful. And that through that I could feel so much closer to both God and my husband. And that because of that my whole view of sex could change almost overnight!

I am incredibly grateful for everything that has unfolded in 6 short days, and so excited to see what will continue to unfold in the weeks to come!"

- Christina from Denver

Life before the O Class was uncomfortable, uneasy, awkward, and on edge aka a total mess. My husband and I were constantly bickering and bitter towards each other. We had completely rid our relationship of any kind of intimacy. It was understood that nothing of the sort could ever even be mentioned. Don’t ask, don’t expect, don’t even think about it! We had not been intimate for over a year and very rarely even kissed. Any kind of affection was off limits because it would give false hope of leading into something else.

I constantly dealt with the nagging guilt of my ‘wife’ role and the biblical principle of wives submit to your husband and basically give your husband sex anytime he wants it. I had a very difficult time following this principle because it felt so one-sided, like why is it all about him and why can’t he respect that I don’t want to always lay myself down just because he wants it? What about me???? I had major aversions to sex and intimacy while I was pregnant and it continued well after our baby was born. We both thought this was how things were going to be for the rest of our marriage if it lasted. We had no idea what to do, where to begin, whose problem it was, or where the problem even came from. 

Compounding past issues for both of us had resurfaced. I personally couldn’t get past the reoccurring thoughts and hurtful experiences from my past and from our marriage. They were embedded in my mind and constantly replaying. My husband had lost all hope and we both felt unloved and inadequate. Deep down it was eating at us and we knew it was affecting us in many more ways than we wanted to acknowledge. Had we lost faith in our marriage and in God that we were ok living miserable and spiraling down the drain? We had talked about counseling but never actually looked into it. That just didn’t seem like it was the answer. I had been praying for some kind of answer because I couldn’t just keep ignoring the situation and live such an awkward complicated life with my new family. I was supposed to be happy and enjoying this new life with my husband and my precious little girl, everything I had always dreamed of.

I came across Jackie’s advertisement on Facebook and I remember it literally jumping out at me, talking about intimacy is not just for your husband. “Focusing on being intimate ‘for your husband’ is the worst way you can run your relationship as a woman ... you’ve been taught to serve others first...but what if the best way to serve your man was to prioritize your own pleasure - by God’s design?”

Wait a minute, I thought, did she just put intimacy, MY desires, and God together?!? I didn’t even think twice, it said free webinar and I signed up! I watched her webinar and it was like she was inside my mind putting my thoughts down in front of me AND had a solution. I had never even remotely heard anyone talk like this or be so spot on with my exact thoughts - never. I have always had in the back of my mind that there’s got to be more to this intimacy and marriage stuff, surely God loves me just as much as he loves my husband. Jackie sounded like she actually had some answers! I signed up for a personal phone call to see if her solution was a good fit for my situation. I was anxious for the call because I never do anything like this but I also had nothing to lose. I at least wanted to chat with this amazing person that had cracked the lonely trap I had been in for so long, where I had no one to discuss this with, ESPECIALLY on a biblical note. Just from watching the webinar, I knew whoever I was supposed to talk to would at least understand what I've been privately struggling with for years. 

The call was everything I needed. I felt comfortable talking about my thoughts and issues when I really had never verbally spoken about them. The webinar, personal phone call, and my continued experience with Jackie and the O Class has been nothing short of an answer to my prayers. The connection to the O Class was not a mere coincidence, it was completely orchestrated by God and there’s no doubt about that. I had never been able to talk to someone about any of this, much less someone that understood what I was even describing. Simply talking to Jackie, I no longer felt alone and trapped in my own misery. I knew this was something I had only dreamed of, and there was no way I could let this opportunity slip away. I absolutely loved the fact that she offered a Godly perspective on intimacy. I had to take the opportunity to learn God's design for women and even save my marriage in the process. 

I began the O Class and immediately my mind was blown. Jackie discussed biblical truths and principles that I never even knew existed simply because it is not openly taught in the traditional Christian culture. The breakdown and correction of false beliefs and thoughts that stemmed from as far back as childhood. The renewed perception of my body and the idea of pleasure. I began to understand and believe that God did design us women to receive and enjoy intimacy, and He didn’t just create it for men. That may sound silly, but when all you’ve heard and learned in this area was submit to your husband in every way - it can seem like God's design was solely for men. I now know and believe that is far from the truth. 

As I started to embrace a new way of thinking and a different kind of reality, I started to get excited and still a little anxious about being intimate again with my husband. Likewise, my husband noticed right off the bat that my demeanor had changed and I was starting to open up and was able to talk about sex and intimacy. About halfway through the course, Jackie gave a little nudge and honestly my first thought was, ‘oh no there’s no way I’m ready for this.’ But by the end of the lesson, I realized I had the necessary tools and the right mindset, so why not make it happen, and what do I have to lose? It can’t get any worse than it already was! 

So I texted my husband and told him it would be his lucky night, and at first he had no idea what I was alluding to, but eventually figured it out and he was dumbfounded. He was shocked and excited but nervous. He didn’t really know how to take the news. When he got home from work, I gave him a little knowledge I learned from the class about how the night would go. He was still dumbfounded that I was talking about sex and that it was going to be planned, something I had been completely against before the O Class. I was profoundly confident about what I had learned from the O Class and was pretty much taking control of the situation so to speak. 

There was a plan in place to meet me in the living room after I put our daughter to sleep, and then it’s on. I put my daughter to sleep and for a second I thought it was going to be super awkward when I came out into the living room, but I walked about and it was totally not awkward and I still had the same confidence I felt earlier. The rest is history. Needless to say it was short and sweet after a year long dry spell and I still had this incredible sense of confidence afterwards. We made it a priority to mark it on the calendar every third day. It took away the uncertainty and the guessing of when to do what. Since it was a calendar item I no longer felt the unnecessary pressure when we would kiss or flirt because we both knew there weren’t any ulterior motives to our affection. 

Things really started to turn around. It still took time to continue the course and continue to work on everything but it was definitely a huge win and it gave both of us the opportunity to love and be loved again, something neither of us had been able to do in a very long time. I am still working through the course but I have a renewed sense of hope that we are on a brand new path to a much better future. 

My husband’s words exactly, “completely blown away. Far exceeded any expectation that I have had for a long time. Thanks for taking those classes and reconnecting with me. I love you.”

I am grateful for the eye opening biblical truths and information that Jackie shares and the simple yet deep mental, physical, emotional shifts she helps you through. I am grateful for the new sense of confidence I have gained through this process. Even when I may experience a hiccup, I have the determination and will to work through it knowing what God has given me and fighting through with His truth. 

It is also such a relief and tremendous resource to have our monthly O Class group calls because no matter what I have an outlet to discuss any questions, concerns, hiccups, wins, victories, you name it. The O Class has done way more than help my sex life and marriage, it has empowered me as a woman and strengthened my walk with the Lord. I have also gained new friendships through the O Class with like-minded sisters that are going through something similar. 

I never thought any of this would happen. I have been stuck in this rut for many years and I thought getting married and having a baby would fix it all but it only made it worse. I have been searching for Godly wisdom on the topic of intimacy and I can without a doubt say I found it through Jackie Dixon and the O Class. Best opportunity and decision I could ever make. I share my experience with those close to me and now with you because I want other women that suffer silently like me to know there is hope and restoration with Godly wisdom available and it is a sisterhood that will last the rest of your life. 

I am forever grateful for Jackie and the O Class. It is a gift that keeps on giving! 

- Ruth from Owasso, OK

Gosh where do I begin with how amazing your coaching has been for me personally and for my

Pure Romance business. 

Personally my husband and I have reconnected in so many different ways that I didn't think were possible. Tomorrow we celebrate 26 years of marriage, which have had many ups and downs. Thank GOD we chose to hold on and make things work, especially when I used to think of ways to get out. 

Coming into your program a few months ago helped change my mindset, helped me to stop playing the victim, to open my heart and truly forgive. I love my husband so much, but my wall had been up so high, he had no chance to see me. 

The O course is so inspiring - you cover so many different topics that have been happening in my marriage. We are now able to talk and be open with one another. It took us to a higher level in our marriage. Your honest bluntness to talk about sex truly inspires me. Given me strength to be a Bombshell Babe - yes I own that now! It's helped me to help other women to feel the same way.

I talk to hundreds of women each month; my Pure Romance business has exploded because of you and your course. I am able to talk confidently about sex, GOD's divine purpose for a healthy marriage. To empower women on this topic, to give them permission to let it go and embrace their inner bombshell. 

My church even wants me to share my story - my pure romance journey; never thought that would happen. I continue to get mentored from my preacher. We talk about so much - what I am learning and how my business has helped so many women. I was able to speak to over 200 women of which probably half were non-believers and share my faith and my purpose for my Pure Romance journey.

Because of YOU JACKIE I feel alive, I feel confident, to get out there share with as many women as I possibly can. My goal is to increase anniversaries. With all I am learning from you and your program I FEEL CONFIDENT I WILL DO SO. 

Thank you for being so BOLD sharing all you do to help women and to help couples. YOU ARE THE BOMB.COM.

Lots of Love,

Vickie

I started in the O class quite a few months ago. I have been going slow and really working to unpack a lot of hurt and misinformation. It has not been easy, but I kept working on it because this is an area of my life that I really felt the Lord needed to invade. 

This past week, I started to watch the playback of the Libido video you did. I have about an hour commute to work, so I decided to listen to it on the drive. However, every time I would get an hour or so into the broadcast, I would lose cell signal and I would have to restart the video. At first, I was frustrated because I had to watch most of the video 4 or 5 different times. However, I now know that God needed me to hear the same message again and again before it really hit home for me.

I won’t get into the details, but yesterday for the first time in my entire life and in my marriage, I had amazing, beautiful, trusting sex. I was vulnerable, I was open, and it was absolutely life-changing for myself and my husband. 

Thank You! Thank You! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing God‘s love and truth into this area of my life. I know you are affecting and helping so many women and their marriages and I pray you know the value you have. 

Thank you for being bold and courageous and sharing this message. Keep up God’s work!

I spoke with my husband and he is so happy to hear that you’re helping so many women and people in our situation. Thank you again! And while I know we will still have some ups and downs, we’ve been having lots of fun lately!!  

Thank you again! So wonderful to feel God’s presence and BLESSING over our sex life! Never thought we’d see the day!

Thank you!!!

- Lisa